In 2020 I’m answering a list of 52 journal questions. Read about it here.
Write down one regret.
I don’t like to think about regrets, after all, regrets are really wishing you’d made another choice.
When you make a choice, you are making it based on the information you have on hand. That can come from your emotion at the time, previous experiences, what you are wanting in the future, the pros and cons as you see them and the opinions of others around you.
It doesn’t mean it turns out it is the right decision. Only time will tell if that was the case. But you can’t go back and change it, and chances are, put in that exact position again, you will make the same decision.
That’s the problem with choices, you never know what the future holds so can’t add that to the scales when choosing.
I try very hard to make a decision and to not look back. That’s not to say there aren’t choices I wish I hadn’t made – far from it. But if I hadn’t made those choices I wouldn’t be the person I am today, with the family I have. I wouldn’t change that choice for anything.
Have you ever seen the movie Sliding Doors? It resonated with me and I think about it quite a lot, because that’s how I view choices now. Sometimes it is the tiniest choice that can make the biggest difference in the path you go down. And sometimes you don’t even know you’ve made a choice.
And you don’t actually know if the other choice would have turned out any better. It may have proven even worse than the one you made.
Now when I worry about a choice I think of it as a Sliding Doors moment, and it makes it easier to live with my decision (watch the movie if you get the chance).
So I try not to live with regret. I think I’m happier for it.
What about you, do you have something you regret?