Tonight I was at a workshop for parents of teens on “Supporting Teenagers to Become Sexually Healthy Adults”. This wasn’t a birds and bees kinda talk, this was about what teens are doing these days, what sexual health is (you wouldn’t think that looks different but it does) and the medical side of things. It was quite eye opening…wow, things have changed from when I was younger!
They showed us a few videos they use to help educate teens, and one was the tea analogy…
What do you think of the analogy?
September 9, 2020 at 10:47 pm
I’ve seen that before! I think it’s so awesome to be more open and honest with kids (especially teens) about sex and the pressures around it and how to actually be in a healthy relationship. I think a lot of teens are getting information from their peers/the media because they feel uncomfortable talking to their parents about it. I know I would NEVER talk to my parents about sex as a teen or even now as a full-grown adult. The worst is if they are getting their knowledge from porn and thinking that it’s the way you treat your partner… so sad. My old upstairs tenants had to do that with their teen son, caught him watching stuff he shouldn’t have and had to explain that it’s not how real relationships work.
Another one about consent is this youtube clip! I couldn’t find the full lesson but, the small clip is funny, but also to the point!
September 10, 2020 at 9:17 am
In Australia, the slogan, “no means no” is now outdated and not used. The new one is “Enthusiastic yes!” – this removes the issues of people feeling pressured to say yes, saying yes then ending up unconscious etc…
Enthusiastic Yes
I was very lucky in that my parents were very open with me, so I’ve been the same with the Barbarians. They’ve heard me talking about this kinda stuff since before they can remember.
September 10, 2020 at 9:27 am
Awww cute video! I love it!
I am hoping to be open and a safe place for questions for my own children if/when that time comes. I wish it was different with my parents but not really an issue anymore LOL I did have a pretty good “ask any question” policy when I was a nanny for my 4 kids. And if it was hitting an area that I didn’t know how their parents wanted it answered I told them to ask their parents. But their parents are very strictly religious, and I am too when it comes to matters of sex, but they probably wouldn’t give a good answer…
September 10, 2020 at 11:03 am
I’m horrid on this topic. My husband had to give my kids The Talk, and I’m not sure he did so well. Maybe that’s why they’re both still single.
September 10, 2020 at 6:56 pm
I’m the one who’s done most of the talking in our house, and it’s something I have always just talked about with the Barbarians. They didn’t care when they were young, but they are a little more embarrassed now they get older, but they are very used to me talking about that kind of stuff. It’s never really worried me – maybe because I’m a scientist (and enviro at that)? It’s all just biology after all 🙂
September 10, 2020 at 11:57 am
Yeah, I’ve seen that before. It’s a good one.
September 11, 2020 at 8:43 am
Yeah, I thought so too, Liz. and one that should work with kids.
September 12, 2020 at 7:12 am
It’s a good analogy! My mother pretty much ignored the topic of sex entirely, so I’ve tried to be open with my boys. But they are also very private. So it’s a balancing act I haven’t quite figured out yet.
September 12, 2020 at 8:01 am
It’s hard, I think, for a mum with boys. My Barbarians are probably pretty good for boys, but definitely not as open as I think a daughter would be.